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Vigilance of Self-Love
When I map my own path of self-love, I can see how much of it has been shaped from an honest willingness to see my addictive dance with self-loathing. Isn't it amazing how the very source of our suffering-- when faced directly-- holds the key to our freedom? That...
Opening to the Bad Dream, while Ushering Forth the Good One
At the top of my extremely short list of what I’ve absolutely loved about this global pandemic? My ritualized evening walks with my amazing son, Ezra Star.* Our walks have evolved this past year, alongside the seasons, and our rapidly evolving hearts. Last spring and...
Lessons in Discernment & the Consequences of Self-betrayal
I have made many mistakes in my life, but the most consequential mistakes I’ve made have always involved betraying in some way what I know to be true. These are the mistakes that have delivered essential lessons in discernment, self-respect, dignity and integrity....
The Miracle & Challenge of Forgiveness: A Divorce-Healing Story
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” —Marianne Williamson Forgiveness is a fearless teacher. It came to me in one of my...
Turning Bare-Chested Towards Loss
This morning, as I awakened alone inside the quiet warmth of my bed, I found myself contemplating the habitual way we brace ourselves against loss. I was considering a dear friend of mine, who is facing a particularly grueling passage of loss, inside a lifetime full...
Refusing to Prostitute Our Muse (a.k.a. ‘The Relevance of Peonies’)
My muse recently returned to me, after an excruciatingly long hiatus. For many, many months I could barely write a word. I felt zero inspiration, no assignments from God, a complete lack of any creative connection between my heart, mind and voice. I could still feel a...
Belonging to Ourselves
All these efforts to somehow crack the codes of life, of adulting, business, parenting, health, money, service, social media algorithms— for what? So that we finally achieve some ultimate sense of security, or impact, or relevance? So we can finally know that we...
The Gateway
Beyond the pendulum swing from disappointment to prayer and frustration to revelation; beyond the poignant lessons of mistake and resolve, the continuous poetry of ache and relief, the habit of self-fascination—there is a gateway. Yes, the gateway of equanimity, at...
The Medicine of Great Humbling
Dearest Ones, As this powerful year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on the vital role humbling has played historically, in the unfolding of my life, and in the evolving heart of our world. Yes, it has been a year of Great Humbling. And yet, humbling at its...
Elegantly Crushed: A Pandemic Love Story
Full disclosure: I share this tender, intimate story that is really my son Ezra’s story, with his generous permission and blessing. At first he wasn’t so sure he wanted it to be shared, given the vulnerable nature of its content. But when I explained how lacking I was...