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The Simple, Perfect Wisdom of “Help”

The Simple, Perfect Wisdom of “Help”

“Help” is one of my most favorite prayers. When we can find our way to the voice that remembers how to ask for help, we are more than halfway home. How many times in the last couple of years have I found my way, just in time, back to the altar. Back to the simple...

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Vigilance of Self-Love

Vigilance of Self-Love

When I map my own path of self-love, I can see how much of it has been shaped from an honest willingness to see my addictive dance with self-loathing.   Isn't it amazing how the very source of our suffering-- when faced directly-- holds the key to our freedom?   That...

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Opening to the Bad Dream, while Ushering Forth the Good One

Opening to the Bad Dream, while Ushering Forth the Good One

At the top of my extremely short list of what I’ve absolutely loved about this global pandemic? My ritualized evening walks with my amazing son, Ezra Star.* Our walks have evolved this past year, alongside the seasons, and our rapidly evolving hearts. Last spring and...

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Lessons in Discernment & the Consequences of Self-betrayal

Lessons in Discernment & the Consequences of Self-betrayal

I have made many mistakes in my life, but the most consequential mistakes I’ve made have always involved betraying in some way what I know to be true. These are the mistakes that have delivered essential lessons in discernment, self-respect, dignity and integrity....

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Turning Bare-Chested Towards Loss

Turning Bare-Chested Towards Loss

 This morning, as I awakened alone inside the quiet warmth of my bed, I found myself contemplating the habitual way we brace ourselves against loss. I was considering a dear friend of mine, who is facing a particularly grueling passage of loss, inside a lifetime full...

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Belonging to Ourselves

Belonging to Ourselves

All these efforts to somehow crack the codes of life, of adulting, business, parenting, health, money, service, social media algorithms— for what? So that we finally achieve some ultimate sense of security, or impact, or relevance? So we can finally know that we...

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The Gateway

The Gateway

Beyond the pendulum swing from disappointment to prayer and frustration to revelation; beyond the poignant lessons of mistake and resolve, the continuous poetry of ache and relief, the habit of self-fascination—there is a gateway. Yes, the gateway of equanimity, at...

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The Medicine of Great Humbling

The Medicine of Great Humbling

Dearest Ones, As this powerful year comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on the vital role humbling has played historically, in the unfolding of my life, and in the evolving heart of our world. Yes, it has been a year of Great Humbling. And yet, humbling at its...

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“If our love for life remains conditional, based upon us getting our own way or life looking the way we want it to, we remain defended against the slap of life’s ruthless uncertainty.

The degree to which our hearts are guarded and armored against life’s horrors is the exact degree to which we are also closed to its brilliant love, beauty, and joy.”

 

“If we learn how to consciously meet our suffering, then even our suffering is the precise medicine needed to bring us deeper home to life and to love. ” 

“As we learn to open wider to the depth of grief that is here for us—personally, collectively, and globally—we can allow the honest inclusion of our brokenness to bring us home to what’s unbreakable.  ”